Oh alright, facebook wins!

01 Aug

I am in Blogspot, WordPress, Flickr, Webshots, WAYN (where are you now), Friendster, and Alumni dot com.  But is that enought?  Apparently not.  Because you’re not “in” if you don’t facebook as well. 

I don’t want to be in Facebook.  I have no strong desire to find out where old acquiantances are.  No need to spy old loves.  I don’t need facebook.

I was content with Friendster.  I post my “personal” photos there.  For my friends to see.  Friends I met in person.  People I went to school with, roomed with, shopped with, drank with.  In short people I know.  I don’t actively seek out “new” people to call friends. 

I don’t have a need for Facebook.  Until today.  My high school friends and I are on Friendster.  Apparently, they also can be found on Facebook.  One friend, actually a couple, who I put together – yes my first successful matchmaking attempt – are only on Facebook.  I don’t they think they have any interest in signing up with Friendster.  After all, who wants to go with a sinking ship, right?

Until today.  Until I ask them to email me photos.  And they said, go to facebook, we’re there. 

I have had invites for Facebook.  The same people I call friends on Friendster have pending invites for facebook.  I just ignore those emails. 

But I want to see my friends, especially  this couple.  We went to high school together.  Back then I was more close to the guy than the gal.  I still am I think considering the time and distance.  He is the one emailing, not her.

I used to write his love letter to her.  My first paying job.  I was paid in kind.  He would buy me snack at the bakery, bring me some stationery, etc.  He would walk me home and the whole way we would be talking about her. 

Nothing happened in high school between them, although it was clear to all of us that she liked him too.  In those days and in that part of the world, having a boy/girlfriend wasn’t really the “in” thing to do.  Yeah I know, we were weird, right?

Fate gave them another chance one day after college when they took the same bus home from Manila.  The three-hour ride gave them time to rediscover the friendship.  And upon reaching home at about 9 pm, I got a knock on my door.  It was him, all excited, telling me about the chance meeting with her.  Right there and then, he told me he’s going to give it another shot.  I said I thought that he’s already seen what else is out there (college gals he dated), it’s time to really be serious if he truly wanted her. 

From that time on, I would get weekly updates on the progress of their relationship. Until they decided to get wed.

His mother knocked on my door one night with his younger sis in tow.  She was afraid the lovebirds were rushing to get married.  I didn’t think she would be opposed to the union (she is after all not only a beautiful face, she has a DMD after her name too).  I thought by coming to me, she was not quite happy.  I told her that they were in love since high school and I think they had adequate time to think things out.   (I didn’t tell him or her that his mom came to me that night prior to the wedding.)

So now, I got an email that they have three boys and I can see the family photos on facebook.  What choice do I have?

I won over MY SPACE.  But it seems like there is no winning over facebook.


Posted by on August 1, 2009 in friends, personal


5 responses to “Oh alright, facebook wins!

  1. Pacey

    August 2, 2009 at 5:28 am

    Facebook it is too for me, I get to see my friends there. Been a member long time when it wasn’t still the famous one and now it’s been recalled. Hahahah…

  2. Antigoni

    August 2, 2009 at 10:06 am

    Thanks for your nice comment. It’s a difficult time for me because of my sister’s illness and i need friends more than anything. Thank you for being a good friend.

  3. bw

    August 4, 2009 at 4:48 pm

    Facebook is a very powerful tool for social engineering and can also be an invasion of your privacy if you don’t manage it right. It is said some companies spy on their employees in Facebook before hiring them hehe 🙂 It’s great tool though to keep in touch with friends.

  4. ellievellie

    August 5, 2009 at 3:03 am

    I know what you mean – I opened an account and deactivated it in two weeks – too much blah, blah – invites from people I don’t want to meet next to invites from people I want to see again – next thing – politicians and celebrities popping up seeking new fans… not for me. Friends are welcome to stop by my blog – they know my e-mail – facebook, tweet … may be later I will try again

  5. Louise

    August 13, 2009 at 1:03 am

    I got sucked into Facebook, too. I am still ambivalent about it. I didn’t look up anyone, but lots of people looked up me. Most of them are the same. Just as nice (or not) as they were in high school! Sometimes I go a LONG time without checking. Sometime I check a lot. But mostly I think I could live without it.


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