my world #41: bengali wedding

07 Sep

The wedding ceremony follows the gaye holud.  The wedding ceremony is arranged by the bride’s family.  Her family members arrive earlier than the groom (the bride arrives later).  And upon the grooms arrival, the male members of the bride’s family block the groom from entering the venue. This tradition is part of  embarrassing the groom by demanding money for his entrance.  The money is usually for the bride’s younger cousins and friends.

The bride arrives some time later accompanied by her friends.  Both bride’s and groom’s parents are in Bangladesh and were not able to attend the wedding.  By this time the groom is seated in the stage at the front of room.  She doesn’t acknowledge him.

The bride is immediately taken to a separate room upon her arrival.   She is accompanied by her family.  Then the amount of dowry is verified and if  both parties are agreeable, the formal papers are signed.

The kazi (in Muslim, the person authorized by the govt to perform weddings) goes to the bride first to get the paper signed, when groom agrees to the amount.  Next to sign is the witness/witnesses.

Then finally the groom signs the paper.  The wedding has been formalized, before the bride and groom even see each other or is seated next to each other.

Finally when all documents are signed, the bride leaves her room and joins the groom on the dais and picture taking starts. Also the feast begins immediately after all the photos have been snapped.  Worth noting is that the guests eat first.  The newly weds eat later after the guests.  This is so because the newly weds are considered the hosts of this feasts and the guests always eat first before the hosts.

Isn’t she a beautiful bride?  Traditionally, brides wear a colorful fancy sari, usually red.

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Posted by on September 7, 2009 in My World


23 responses to “my world #41: bengali wedding

  1. bing

    September 7, 2009 at 12:36 pm

    what quality pictures you have here.

    the whole thing is such a ritual. i wonder how the bride and the groom feels about the whole thing. do they feel the same excitement as the ones truly in love are being wed (without the dowries and all)?

  2. Carver

    September 7, 2009 at 4:19 pm

    Great post and a beautiful wedding. The bride looks gorgeous. Interesting learning about the traditions and such wonderful photographs.

  3. Snap

    September 7, 2009 at 11:09 pm

    I’ve really enjoyed your posts on this wedding. A beautiful bride! Love all the color.

  4. Sylvia Kirkwood

    September 7, 2009 at 11:21 pm

    Fantastic post and photos! The colors are so vivid and beautiful! And what a lovely bride! This was such a great and informative post and I’ve really enjoyed reading about the traditions! Thanks for sharing it all!

    Have a great week!


  5. Indrani

    September 8, 2009 at 4:36 am

    Love the shots!
    I attended one many years back.

  6. lantaw

    September 8, 2009 at 5:08 am

    love the bride and groom’s very colorful costume

  7. Alicesg

    September 8, 2009 at 5:10 am

    Very interesting culture. Their costumes are so colourful and beautiful. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day.

  8. irene

    September 8, 2009 at 5:20 am

    Weddings are fascinating. Ritualistic and a significant part of every culture. Thanks for sharing a Bengali wedding.

  9. Ebie

    September 8, 2009 at 6:19 am

    She is a pretty bride and she looks shy. I love the colorful saris (I’ve worn once during our College Mardi Gras) and the shots are perfectly done. Very interesting to know about different cultures. I was just wondering if they have known each other before the wedding, or just an arranged one.
    RYC: There are 2 farmers market in the Downtown area, on Wednesdays in Pershing Square and on Thursdays at 7th & Fig. I think it is a year round market.

  10. Wolynski

    September 8, 2009 at 6:31 am

    That’s not a wedding, that’s a transaction. Very interesting, though, and great photos.

  11. Janice

    September 8, 2009 at 7:31 am

    She is a beautiful bride. Interesting to read about the traditions.

  12. magiceye

    September 8, 2009 at 8:33 am

    that sure is fun!

  13. SandyCarlson

    September 8, 2009 at 9:05 am

    Very beautiful wedding. I enjoyed reading about this ceremony. Thank you for enriching my understanding.

  14. Rajesh

    September 8, 2009 at 10:24 am

    Very lovely. I just love this celebrations. They are so colorful.

  15. lazyclick

    September 8, 2009 at 11:00 am

    Very colorful and beautiful snaps.

  16. Arija

    September 8, 2009 at 11:02 am

    A very beautiful bride, and it is alwais good to see other customs than our own.

  17. fishing guy

    September 8, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    Ewok: A beautiful wedding and a beautiful bride.

  18. Janie of Utah

    September 8, 2009 at 11:30 pm

    The bride is beautiful in her red sari. It’s fascinating to learn about a wedding ceremony in anothere country’s tradition.

  19. bw

    September 9, 2009 at 12:01 am

    wow… so elaborate. Nice pictures. On the dowry thing, what if it is no agreeable, would the marriage be called off ? Ouch 😳

  20. Rair_couture

    September 9, 2009 at 8:08 am

    Indian weddings are always colorful, be it any culture. One of the best examples of vibrancy is the Brides’ dress. Its all glittered which is looking very pretty. The net orhni is adding stars to her look.

  21. Louise

    September 17, 2009 at 10:43 pm

    The bride is gorgeous, and I love the costumes on everyone.

  22. Eva

    January 28, 2012 at 4:47 pm

    I wanted to point out that the dowry is given to the bride from the groom, and is traditionally called daan mohor in Bangladesh


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